11th
I wish people would see how tacky and rude the traditional head table at a wedding is. You choose people to be in your wedding party as a way to honor friends and family, but it’s not exactly honoring them by splitting them up from their significant other. Especially at an event that’s all about celebrating love. I am very appreciative of my bridesmaids so why wouldn’t I want to make the comfortable by allowing their boyfriends/husbands to sit with them during the reception? It seems like common courtesy.
It’s especially insulting when their significant other doesn’t know other people at the wedding, but is still expected to sit amongst a bunch of strangers for the evening. I’ve even declined an invite to a wedding because my fiance was in the wedding party and I didn’t know a single person there outside of the couple. Why would I subject myself to a couple of hours of pure torture (which it would be to an introverted, socially anxious person like myself)?
I guess people have a head table for just the wedding party as a way to demonstrate “these are the special people today.” But for me sitting with the wedding party (which, for the most part, are a bunch of people that I just met and will probably never see again) and being forced to act like we are all friends does not make me feel special, it’s just awkward. Let me sit with my significant other and have fun rather than being bored. It just reminds me of the elitist thinking that the couple is king and queen, the wedding party acts as royalty, and the dates of the wedding party are the commoners who aren’t worthy to sit near the couple.
